Tulisa shared it had been over three years since she last had sex
An expert has shared the mental and physical impact of being celibate as Tulisa Contostavlos revealed on I’m A Celeb that it had been three years since she’d had sex.
The N Dubz singer revealed her abstinence in a discussion around sex and relationships on today’s (19 November) episode of I’m A Celebrity: Get Me Out of Here!
This led on from a conversation in the camp about enjoying being single, with Radio 1 presenter Dean McCullough saying: “I actually do enjoy being single, I enjoy being on my own.”
Tulisa revealed she was celibate on today’s episode (ITV)
When the topic of dating apps came up, he turned to Tulisa and joked: “We’ve done them all, haven’t we babes.”
The singer went on to reveal the only dating app she’s ever used is Raya, an exclusive membership-based platform, and that she feels like she is demisexual.
Demisexuality is a form of asexuality in which people only feel a sexual attraction to others after a period of time spent developing an emotional bond.
“I need actual depth,” Tulisa added, before saying: “I’m a slow, slow burner, I’ve been celibate for over three years.”
I’m A Celeb: Tulisa feels ‘demisexual’
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She continued: “I’m not an overly sexualised person. For me, it’s all about the connection and the emotions that I feel with someone and then wanting to express them in that way.”
Tulisa said that the thought of having sex with anyone makes her feel ‘physically sick’.
The decision to abstain from sex is a deeply personal choice, and, while there is nothing wrong with anyone enjoying their sex life, an expert has previously commented on the physical and mental effects of celibacy.
A study of over 17,000 people investigated the effects of abstention from sex, and it showed that people who were celibate had ‘very similar happiness levels as their sexually active counterparts’.
Tulisa also revealed she was demisexual (ITV)
Outside the obvious benefits, such as having a near-zero risk of sexually transmitted diseases, there are certain situational benefits.
One such is that it prevents people from having sex when they have low self-esteem, which can lead to obvious problems.
The study also stated that people who would prefer not to engage in sex would see positive effects on their mental health when becoming celibate.
Despite this though, that isn’t to say that having sex is unhealthy, as it all depends on the person and their circumstances.
The study also revealed, for example, that regular sex can cause lower blood pressure, reduce stress levels, boost your immune system and even improve your cardiovascular health.
The moral of the story seems to be then to follow Tulisa’s lead and simply go with whatever you think is best!
